I have been doxxed. For those of you who do not know what doxxing is: To dox – to search for and publish private or identifying information about (a particular individual) on the Internet, typically with malicious intent.
Sadly, this is not the first time I’ve been doxxed. It’s the THIRD.
About 13 years ago, a former roommate decided to give my personal information (including photos of my parent’s home) to a notorious troll group. They published that info anywhere they could think of where it might harm me or my family.
Then about 8 years ago, I was doxxed by an anti-fan of my writing on the website Bleeding Cool. Without getting into specifics on how, it led to harassment and cyberstalking charges against an individual who used that information to *actually* stalk me. (Thank you, Chicago, for being amongst the first major metropolitan cities to recognize cyberstalking and cyberbullying as crimes.)
This morning, I woke up to about 50 text messages and a few missed calls – all from unknown numbers – basically asking me to perform sex acts for money. (Absolutely NO JUDGEMENT of sex workers here, I just am not one.) I cannot tell if someone actually listed my phone number on an escort site -or- if it is someone/someones who are using Google numbers to harass me. Regardless, I have strong suspicions of who is responsible for it. Given that in December I got into a private fight with someone, who then decided to make it public in a group they owned (and, that I was a member of,) and subsequent shit ensued that resulted in me blocking a whole lot of people and leaving all of this person’s groups. I suspect it is a person or a small group of people who are “inner sanctum” with this person. I hope I’m wrong, but it’s way too suspicious and follows their MO for fucking with people they do not like.
Regardless, the important take away of this blog post is this: Doxxing constitutes cyberstalking, and cyberstalking is a federal crime and a crime in Illinois that is punishable by prison and fines. Which means that in the morning I am going to go to a police precinct and file a report of cyberstalking/harassment for the third time in my life.
In case this ever happens to you, here are some tips:
- Preserve any and all communication you get from people that proves that your identifying information has been doxxed on the Internet.
- Try not to engage with the person who is harassing you (I’m really bad at this, because I always want to know why and how, even today I engaged with two of these dumblefux trying to figure out where/how they got my number.) But, seriously, do not do this. My Mom and the police would tell you this is super important, and I agree… even though I’m bad at it.
- File a police report ASAP. Even if they say they cannot do anything about it, you need a paper trail that proves you tried to act in your own interest.
- If it gets worse, press the cops to do something about it. They won’t want to, but you have to be a strong advocate for yourself because what whoever has doxxed you has done is ILLEGAL AF. Don’t let them win.
Honestly, I hope I am wrong about who I think has orchestrated this bullshit. It would be a new super-low, even for them. Ugh. I hate the Internet. Apparently, it hates me back.